My words below are based on my experiences and were originally published in Inspire Me Today. As many of you know, we have recently started a movement to ‘Go First Class’ by doing small things, every day, to make a big difference. My words below are my small gift to you today.

I was asked this question by a celebrated blogger a while back and at first I was dismayed…then I got to thinking…then I got to writing picturing my funeral and what I would tell others on that day.

Trust in your dreams for in them you will find what is real. Reality is not the day to day. It is not the ever-ending grocery list. It is not fretting about the layer of dust on the nightstand. It is not the balance of the checkbook. It is not dreading Mondays or celebrating Fridays. Look beyond what you see. Reality is the dream of love everlasting and unconditionally. The love of a parent, a child, a special person and the love of yourself; this is real. Dreams of celebrating life by using your talents to improve the lives of others, that is real. Dreams of lifting up others, that is real.

True sight comes from seeing in the dark. Don’t hide in the dark crying, come out of the bathroom and get a hug. Don’t pretend to be tough, cool, or unaffected. Know that you are not alone in your struggles, your mistakes, and your misadventures. They are part of you and your journey. We want to know you, the real you. You are a gift, all the parts of you.

Your voice is important. Once found, it is a unique note to be shared. The tenor and cadence of your voice, no one else has or ever will have that. The world would not be such a magical and beautiful place without that uniqueness. Please share it with us and unite your voice with others, creating a symphony that we all can be moved by.

Seek vision. Seek to understand so that you may help others see. The understanding is not as important as the seeking, the journey, the questioning. We can never really fully understand others, not fully. But, we can seek to understand. It is the seeking that allows us to remain open to the gifts of others.

Uncover gifts in others. Wake up everyday, committed to uncovering gifts in others. Some are easy to find and uncover but the best gifts, are deep down, in the soul of a person. THESE are made of pure joy and glory. These are the gifts that revolutionize. These are the gifts that will impact you the most.

Others do not define success; you define it. Society, the boardroom, the runway, even well meaning friends and family, do not define success. Only you can do that. Realize that and set yourself free from comparing yourself to others. Realize that and you are already successful.

Seek to become aware of something not previously known. Each day, uncover something new. The color of a friends eyes or a new word; explore a new park or a new neighborhood; taste a new food and meet a new person.

Break the Rules. Find ways to take off self-imposed limits. It could be as simple as remembering to be a child and blow bubbles in your milk or as rebellious as not writing out the grocery list and just ‘going for it’. It could be allowing someone to hug you or remembering to hug them.

The good news is that I am still alive and kicking and I have the opportunity each day to go first class. After all, it only costs a little more to go first class!

What advice do you want to leave to others?









Lisa Baker-King

Author, Consultant & Business Expert

Breaking the Rules by:

Connecting Families-Celebrating Children-Changing Companies


Lisa Baker-King is a nationally recognized and televised author, consultant and coach who is creating a movement connect families, celebrate children and change companies. With over 20 years as a life and business coach, she is passionate about helping families; organizations and small business owners find and pursue their passions with purpose by breaking the rules. Her first children’s book, The Zealous Zebecs from the Midnight Ocean’s Zenith, was released to critical acclaim in June of 2015.


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