While I think I have a really good attitude, I found myself rethinking that at one point in my life.
As a business expert with over 20 years coaching business owners, leadership teams and families trying to strike a balance between work and home, people often come to me with assistance in their career path but not always fully recognizing the importance of attitude on the job. While most people understand that having a positive attitude is a good thing, we don’t always think about the role it plays in our success or lack thereof.
The attitude in which we approach our job is just as important, if not more so, then what we know and even our experiences and skill sets. All things being equal, attitude is the defining trait leading to success or failure. Attitude, unlike skill sets, cannot be faked for long. The old adage “fake it ‘till you make it” has a short life span when it comes to our attitude. How we approach our job permeates how we walk, talk, our body language and how we relate to others.
A few years ago, I was not very happy at my day job. While I thought I was faking it pretty darn good, I was dead wrong! I had friends asking me what was up? They said that I did not seem like the ‘old’ Lisa. That is all well and good because they have my back. However, I had folks that I did not know well ask me if everything is okay. Now I knew the gig was up, faking it was not making it.
Studies abound linking attitude as the number one predictor of success, failure or mediocrity at work. Imagine that two employees with similar experience and performance levels are competing for the same promotion. How does the employer decide who gets the promotion? More often than not, they will pick the person they see themselves working side by side with, the person with the can-do, positive attitude. If you have given up on your day job, just collecting a paycheck, decided to fly under the radar…that mediocre attitude is speaking volumes and people are listening.
3 Signs you need to change your attitude:
- Co-workers with similar experiences are getting picked for special projects and opportunities while you are sitting on the sidelines.
- You dread going to work and cannot wait for the day to get over with.
- Your inside voice (and maybe your outside voice) does not have nice things to say about others and your work environment.
Let’s be real, some work situations are really challenging and there can be a good reason your attitude is not where you would like it. I understand. I was there too at one time. The bottom line was I needed to make a change and I did. But there were a few months that went by, where my heart was not in the work, which I will never get back.
3 Tips on how you can change your attitude at work:
- Stop engaging in negative conversations with others and yourself (self-talk).
- If you are hanging around others who are perceived to have a bad attitude, stop it. Attitudes (positive and negative) are contagious.
- Get with the program our take steps to make a change. Do it for your own happiness.
Our attitude at work does not stay at work. Good or bad, it follows us and has a direct affect on our relationships. Over several years, I have worked on strategies that help me get through the day with a smile. One of my favorites is to listen to up-beat music before starting my day.
I’m curious, what do you do to start your day off right?
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Lisa Baker-King is a nationally recognized and televised author, consultant and coach who is creating a movement connect families, celebrate children and change companies. With over 20 years as a life and business coach, she is passionate about helping families; organizations and small business owners find and pursue their passions with purpose by breaking the rules. Her first children’s book, The Zealous Zebecs from the Midnight Ocean’s Zenith, was released to critical acclaim in June of 2015.